Why English Lacks a Truly Gender-Neutral Way to Address People
Everyday individuals say “ma’am” and “sir” to express respect. These nice words are old. These outmoded greetings can unintentionally make people uncomfortable. Using “ma’am” or “sir” may evoke gender preconceptions based on appearance or sound, which may be distressing.
Gender nonconforming and early gender transitioning people are most affected by this issue. Calling someone by a gender-inappropriate title can cause stress or miscommunication. Politeness is still valued, but more individuals are discovering that English doesn’t always have a gender-neutral honorific.
In other languages, gender-neutral names help convey respect without gender assumptions. There’s no commonly accepted English equivalent. People have suggested “Mx,” but few use it. People who care about etiquette may not use honorifics to avoid offending others.
Etiquette experts recommend a simple, elegant, and widely recognized gender-neutral title. This word allows respectful communication while respecting privacy and identity. Making or popularizing this phrase needs teamwork and adaptability, yet it could decrease some of society’s subtle but common social conflicts.
Being mindful and caring is the best way to talk respectfully now. Observing how people define and achieve their goals might help. English may not be as good as other languages, but gender-neutral words are becoming more widespread, and minor modifications to our speech may make everyone feel welcome.
Sources:
- Andrews McMeel Syndication, Miss Manners Column
- Official etiquette and social guidance references
